In June, Nina, a 36-year-old bachelorette matched with an eligible bachelor on Bumble. On paper, he was perfect: tall and handsome with a good job. And they had great friendly, flirty banter on the app.
But just as they were about to set a date to meet in person, he sent her a photo of his erect penis. “He ruined this connection by making it so sexual,” Nina, who works in fashion and lives in Murray Hill, told The Post.
But while his action was disappointing, it was hardly surprising. Nina, who declined to give her last name for privacy reasons, says she gets such pictures sent to her every week.
For New York City women, receiving unsolicited, explicit pics from men is an all-too-common occurrence. Last year, The Post reported on how it’s become common for perverts to digitally flash women on the subway using the Apple AirDrop app. And a Midtown doorman has been in the news recently after he was fired for allegedly terrorizing female residents with photos of his junk.
“It shouldn’t be a normal occurrence, but it is, unfortunately,” said Pauline, a 28-year-old dog walker who works in Chelsea.
She says she gets sent graphic pictures on Instagram and Snapchat weekly. As a result, she has had to put spam filters on her social-media page so she doesn’t receive messages from people she is not connected with.
“Guys maybe get off on the fact of showing this to a woman,” Pauline, who didn’t disclose her last name, told The Post.
Gracie Landes, a New York marriage and family therapist, says that sending penis pics is a way for men to violate women.
“It’s not about sex. It’s about dominance, using an unfair advantage to get one up over someone in a vulnerable position,” Landes said.
Nina recalls a guy once saying that she’d asked for him to send her dirty pics, telling her that “her eyes told him to do that.” But she’s clear that she definitely doesn’t want penis pictures or find them alluring:
“There’s nothing exciting about looking at [that] unless it’s in front of me.”